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No More Christian Nice Girl- by Paul Coughlin and Jennifer D. Degler

Ever found yourself sacrificing or going that extra mile when you didn’t have any more  to give? Did you believe you were imitating Jesus? Did you feel so put out that  you justified bringing it up in a back-handed, catty sort of way? 

Have you ever considered that you were going at life wrong? You were getting through life by being extra nice. The person who gives and picks up the slack, who listens to every story and puts herself last. You were choosing a way to be liked and avoid rejection. Meanwhile underneath you were pretty angry and you felt very justified to gossip. 

Although we would see ourselves on the pages of this book none of us would have guessed our belief system was this faulty. Our anger would have kept most of us from seeing the truth. At least until now.

Paul Coughlin, author and founder of The Protectors and Jennifer Degler,  licensed psychologist and life coach examine how conditioning and belief systems have affected our actions to be Nice instead of Good. They challenge our thinking about what we believe to be the true character of Christ. Was He strong and courageous or someone who was nice (weak)?  Society has a way of quietly rejecting the woman who is bold and courageous, then as christians we help justify it  with our inaccurate picture of Jesus. The authors  tackle how our desire to be Nice and not Good will affect our relationships, our promotions at work  and our sex lives. With strategies, wisdom and Scripture to challenge our thinking they take women on the journey to leave being Nice to choosing Good as God intended.

 As a female leader, I thoroughly enjoyed this very readable book. I have often found myself frustrated inside  and outside the church. The duplicity is difficult to deal with and often women wear masks and are angry because their authentic selves are not accepted. I believe every woman who sits in church needs  to read this book. Being nice needs to be replaced with good to help the next geration of women live authentically.

Book has been provided courtesy of 

Baker Publishing Group and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc.

Available at your favourite bookseller from Bethany House, a division of Baker Publishing Group.


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